Bandaids and Bactine

I use to think a band-aid and a little bactine, a kiss and some toll house cookies could fix everything. I remember my son a young boy of 4 or 5 sliding down the hill in front of the house where we lived it was summer, and he was using his snow sled. He slid off that little round disc meant for snow and not dirt and scratched himself up pretty good. He came screaming crying into the house and I looked at him and said, I don't see any blood you'll be okay and off he went to do it again. Another time he decided to skate head first down a very steep incline, lots of bandaids and bactine. But,each time he would get up and try it again. Then there was the time, I got the call that he was hurt really hurt and I rushed home to see him pale holding his arm.... he never cried not one time... but I did. Several months surgery, a few srews and therapy later, his arm and elbow where almost as good as new. Now all he has to show for it is that long jagged scar, I wear the scars of these incidents in my heart as every parent does. We hurt for our children when they hurt. But bactine, band-aid and a kiss can't fix those unseen hurts the ones our sons an daughters carry in their hearts. There is not a band-aid large enough to repair those life lessons they must learn on their own, but I will bake the cookies and restock the bactine just in case he needs me.

mikes ma 2006

Facing the Overwhlming/thanks Roger

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I've been thinking alot about last Sundays message. Facing the Overwhelming.

The message really hit home with me as I had just been talking about worry. Rogers outline says that there are 3 approaches
1 We feel hopeless

2. We turn to the world for help

3 We turn it over to Jesus.

Just so you know, I have felt all those emotions, hopeless, turning to the world and being of the world. But how much lighter the "overwhelming" becomes when I turned it over to Jesus.


He read from John:6:1-14 if you haven't read that you should, talk about overwhelming?

His messages references came from another favorite book in the bible Pslams

Psalm 60:11 (New International Version)

11 Give us aid against the enemy,
for the help of man is worthless.

and

Psalm 121:2 (New International Version)

2 My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth.



Are you facing Overwhelming situations in your life? I have and sometimes I still do when I forget where my help comes from.


Be praying for me as I continue to pray for you.


Because He loves me,
Deb

Trusting

I was thinking about what I posted over the weekend, giving you back to God. I had a discussion with some friends/co workers and one said "Debbie, you are not trusting God", when you worry all the time. She is right the bible clearly says

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths.

—Proverbs 3:5-6

Why is it so hard as humans to wrap ourselves around that verse. I struggle and I know that if I give it all to him trust in him completely for my life "God is Good". But then the devil hops up on my shoulder and in pops the worry again. I'm working on it and praying through it. : )

I shared with them the following poem I found.

Yesterday... Today... and Tomorrow

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is Yesterday with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control.

All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word said. Yesterday is gone.

The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.

Tomorrow's sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds - but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow, for it is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day - Today. Any man can fight the battles of just one day; it is only when you or I add the burdens of those two awful eternities - Yesterday - and Tomorrow - that we break down.

It is not the experience of Today that drives men mad - it is the remorse or bitterness for something which happened Yesterday and the dread of what Tomorrow may bring.

Let us, therefore, live but One Day at a Time.

[ Author: Jennifer Kritsch ]

God doesn't promise us tomorrow, I better do the best I can with today.

Love ya

Deb

I'm giving you back to God

Sometimes ...well all the time I worry about things that are out of my control. I am doing better but realize that when I do this I am not letting God have complete control of my life. When my son turned 18 graduated high school he began to test his freedoms. In a moment of "mom insanity"the dictionary defines this according to the law

1. 2. In most criminal jurisdictions, a degree of mental malfunctioning sufficient to relieve the accused of legal responsibility for the act committed.
2. 1. Extreme foolishness; folly.
   2. Something that is extremely foolish

I yelled at him and said that's it I can't take this, I don't understand you, I don't know you. I am giving you back to GOD!!!!!! Everyone one of us has has probably thought or said this. Guess what, at that moment I realized my son is not mine to give back, he has and always will be Gods. He is a gift that I was given from God. His life is already mapped out, as noted in the Purpose Driven Life..."you were in Gods care even before you were born." God knows my son, your children's plans and futures already. It is my job to show him Gods way. I don't know that I have always done a good job of this, but I am learning. I am learning from my son, when I worry about him, and he reminds me of that day that I yelled "I am giving you back to God". He said remember Mom you gave me back quit worrying. He is a funny young man, and I am blessed to have him. Today as so many days, I lay him at the altar and ask God to give him wisdom and keep him safe.

Power of Friendship

I can't imagine how I would have made it all these years without my friends. I just turned 50, and don't deny I was dreading it. But I am so thankful that God brought together a group of friends and family who wanted to share this occasion with me. We had a Sista's weekend and wow what a terrific, inspiring, laugh till you cry, pinky swear time it was. I have often felt ashamed of where I had been, how my life turned out. Like everyone I had plans and dreams, a family, house, dog.... the whole deal. A job as a psychologist.......and this weekend I realized there is no shame in my life. I am blessed with a wonderful son, a supportive family, a man that loves me and friends ........ and I am exactly where God wants me to be.

Letting them Fly

Letting them fly Current mood: happy This is a blog I wrote the summer of 2006 and now that the first half of the year has flown by, Time is flying by.... each day a new letter or phone call comes from another college for Michael. He has his heart set on a couple and one in particular, me well I just want him to get a good education. I'm trying to be as involved as I can in his activities, at the same time step back as he wants to do things on his own. He still needs to find the washer and dryer and learn how to work it. But I noticed the other night when he returned from his work Christmas party, he had won a large piece of luggage, (his thought) "I can fill that full of stuff to move to college", (my thought), "on no, can you imagine how many dirty cloths you can pack in the piece of luggage on wheels and bring home to mom." I'll keep you posted as the months fly by. But as my friend Sherri, comments I have to remember this is a time for "FIRSTS", also and that is pretty exciting. mikes ma Dec 2006 When my son was younger say 10 or 11, I said to him one day. "You know son, one day it's just going to be me and the dog!" He replied, "nope mom, just gonna be you, I'm taking the dog." Now he is a senior, and yes I have to think about his going off to college. This will be a year of "this is the last time" I will see him do that , on the high school football field, on the wrestling mat, banging those drums in the band. We talk about his being gone one day, as parents we prepare our children to leave us from the day they are born. We teach them to walk, talk, roller blade, swim, drive, we allow them to explore many new things in preparing them for life as a young adult one day, making choices. Sometimes we yell and put our foot down, not always because we are angry, but because we want you to slow down. Stop a minute we are not ready for you to go yet. Who is we, well me and God, he has helped us along the way. We have more to teach you, so stay awhile longer, let me teach you to balance that checkbook, give me time to enjoy today with you. For many new amazing experience await you, so we teach you to go, so that one day you can come back and tell Us about all those amazing expereinces you have had. mike's ma july 2006

Success

Just a reminder that our success is not just a accident. Whether that is a new job, new house, a check we were not expecting or my morning race to the scale for a pound lost (I thank the Lord), our successes however often we believe are our own....before we pat ourselves on the back, Thank GOD 1st